My partner doesn’t even want to try and get me off or touch me anymore because I cannot get it up and stay up. I’ve been in this course for a while now & things aren’t progressing. We’ve discussed it at length and I’m in therapy, going to my family doctor to see about pills/options. She’s said that she won’t leave me because of this but it’s super frustrating for us both. Literally in a relationship with her for 7 months and I’ve yet to even have one orgasm while I get her off 2-3 times per weekend minimal.
Wondering what to do…. I’m at a loss & feel I’m trending backwards since I started mojo.
It sounds as though you have been working SO hard to improve your issues and I’m really glad you feel you are progressing! Fantastic! This is a relationship issue. It feels really important that you can ask for what you need - not being touched by the person you are with sounds very upsetting and really is not a sustainable situation. Can you manage to have a conversation about why she feels she would not be able to go to a relationship therapist with you? I am sure you would not need many sessions, this is still a relatively new relationship. If she values this relationship and would like it to grow , I think you will have to have some of these more difficult conversations. You both need to be able to say what type of sex life you would like, I wonder if she is ‘frightened’ of what might seem lack of arousal and does not know what to do. A short couple sensate program could be really helpful. Good luck : )
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