Last weekend i finally got into bed with a girl i like and low and behold i couldnt get hard so i resulted in giving her oral to make sure she atleast climaxed a few times so i wouldnt feel guilty.
On the lead up to this i told myself ‘you haven’t been able to get hard for them the first 3 or 4 times of trying to have sex before so why would this be different?’ and kind of fortune told my own prophecy of being unable to get hard with new partners.
A few months back on Tinder i arranged a hook up with a girl, upon entering her apartment i was instantly hard and we went 3 or 4 rounds that night before i left. I admit, i wasn’t that attracted this girl i just dont think she was my type but either way i had no issues with ED but i remember being so relaxed and oozing with sexual confidence.
I believe once i get comfortable with someone i go back to my usual self of having a extremely high sex drive and even the slightest eye contact or kiss or feel will get me solid.
Is this performance anxiety or is there something else i should looking to work on?