Insensitive Disclosure?

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My girlfriend of 6 months who I am really into just told me last night that her ex had a ā€˜massive dickā€™. Iā€™ve never had any sort of self consciousness around my size before but this landed badly with me and Iā€™ve been feeling out of sorts as to why she disclosed that. Weā€™ve been getting on great in bed, talk a lot about the great chemistry and connection we enjoy - so Iā€™m sure I need not worry. Why then am I so bothered about this?! Writing this here in a bid to get it out of my head and see the funny side of it. He was a massive dickhead too by all accounts and cheated on her numerous times.

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Sorry man.
Never had anyone say that. However I am way below average, so I know I donā€™t measure upā€¦
Itā€™s just something Iā€™ve learned to live with.

However- I have been told I eat pussy like a fat kid eats cakeā€¦,

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Seriously, more than once Iā€™ve been told Iā€™m the best theyā€™ve ever had at oral & foreplay.

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Hey, easier said than done, but donā€™t beat yourself up about it. Something that might help is reminding yourself that sheā€™s with you right now, not her ex, and like you said, it seems youā€™ve both had good sex with each other so far. You already know how to please her and yourself.Youā€™ve got this, top man.

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Did you already inquire as to why she told you this out of the blue, and that it didnā€™t make you feel good? Kind of gives ick vibes, but everyone is different, of course. Do whatā€™s best for you.

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Hey, thanks man. I told her right away that that was an unnecessary detail and that it hadnā€™t landed well. She was immediately apologetic and blamed it on rambling while tired; she was trying to say there was little else to him other than that. I think itā€™s just one of those things that we guys are particularly sensitive to and it just gets you thinking the wrong way doesnā€™t it? I wouldnā€™t have made that mistake myself but i guess really an indication of the level of open and honest communication we have. I told her Iā€™d be fine once processed and to not worry about it. It did affect me though as Iā€™ve only ever been complemented on what a nice dick I have before now! Whatever - not something i can change and i have plenty of positive attributes so consider myself a rounded package rather than a onetrick pony :wink:

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