For context - 24 (M). Healthy lifestyle, physically active, eats fine and has blood tests confirming normal levels of testosterone. Gets stressed out sometimes. Porn usage significantly decreased since online safety act.
So my erection issues began with my first girlfriend (we were together for 4.5 years only broke up a year ago). I couldn’t get it up or have a penetrative sex for a long time and I couldn’t understand why. She was perfectly fine with it and one day I managed to do it and was plain sailing.
Now that I’m single I feel like I’m back to square one. I’ve been with a few girls now and haven’t been able to maintain an erection or get it hard enough to penetrate. Idk if it’s bcos my mind and body is used to being with just one person but it keeps happening. I know it’s anxiety and nerves but it’s also frustration bcos I know I’d enjoy having penetrative sex.
Same thing happened yday and now idk what to do. I’m nervous to be with another girl as I feel like I’m stuck in a loop and that I don’t deserve sex at this point. I also think I’m not built for one night stands / casual hookups.
If anyone has been in a similar position I’d really appreciate some advice or just where to go from here 
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I am going through a very similar situation, haven’t really found much help yet.
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Same here. All that can suggest is to try the meditation and breath work found on this app.
The main objective is to stop the spectatoring and your inner critic.
Good luck 
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I had the same thing. The exercises on here like inner critic, spectatoring, really helped me to get past it but you gotta give it some time and make that effort. It’s hard to get out of your head at first, but once you break past that wall and have a normal experience it gets easier. Stick with it!
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Had the same problem, garunteee it will get better.
No porn and try not to masturbate for a while, I found I had actually lost physical sensitivity over time from the way I did it myself.
Stress is also massive contributor too
Now I’ve been porn free since May, been seeing a girl for the past 2 months and get rock hard with even just a kiss!
Go easy on yourself, everytime you freak out about it you’re just fueling the doom cycle.
Take things slow, kiss, feel everything in the moment and just breathe.
It will pass and you’ll look back on this as a just a stage you went through briefly.
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Thanks! Really helpful to know there’s a way past this. I’ve tried fully quitting porn many times but always find myself relapsing , any tips for that ?
Make it less accessible. Remove any favourites, remove any apps that give immediate access.
And have an alternative. If you have the free time, and you have the urge to watch porn, you can reason “why not? I’m not doing anything else”. Have something to do, ideally more or just as accessible as porn, so you can engage in that to use up that time.
Porn isn’t really bad in itself, unless you think your usage is doing you harm. Does your partner watch porn?
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I think after a long relationship like in your case, it can sometimes take a bit of time for “it” to work.
You got this bro.
I have found that this app DOES WORK…as long as you have a positive attitude.
Once the nerves and anxiety die off, you’re going to be fine.
My only bit of advice, don’t try sex unless you ACTUALLY feel like it. If you start making out and you feel horny - go for it…if you don’t feel super interested in sex, maybe try something else like oral…and allow yourself to enjoy it (a good time for this is when it’s that time of the month for her…you’ll be much more relaxed).
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