I been with my gf for 6 months now… before we started dating we hung out as friends and had a blast together… even just as friends we just wanted to spend more time together so eventually started dating… It was amazing to date some 1 I’m so happy with . But then we got to our sexual experiences… And honestly I dnt think we’re compatible… She says she’s loving the sex…but for me I get hard… I’m horny for her . But we do it and … Well nothing for me… We go at it and eventually I get bored and lose the erection… I figured I can come now n then if I get my legs locked straight but I can’t do that every time bec of positions… I just… It’s not that I think she’s boring in bed. She moves with and does a lot in there . But when I’m in her I just don’t feel stimulated… Idk if I’m explaining it right… but… ya I don’t get near Cumming and then lose my erection… Idk what to do please help
Is this a problem you have had with other girls?
I find some ladies aren’t as tight as others. If she’s loose it doesn’t feel very stimulating. It can almost feel like trying to have sex with a void.
It might be difficult to talk to her about it, but find positions that work for you, not every position is going to hit your sweet spot, and try thinking about the moment and try seperate from the worry of not busting that nut. Everyone is different and likes different things, maybe try see if blowjobs do it for you or mix things up. I’ve been saying this girl for about 14mo now and I couldn’t ask for anything less. Has there been times where I go soft, yes. Other times do I finish in a couple minutes, yes. I’m just trying to break the mentality of worrying about not being able to. But I can’t stress enough about how important it is to just talk to her man, find what works for the both of you guys. Hope you can take some of this and see if it helps.
Thing is I haven’t been with any 1 else since I started dating this girl… So no not before… But now… and I’m really happy in this relationship… and I find her attractive… I just… get bored when in her
Alright, I don’t know if this is the kind of advice that I should be throwing around on Mojo. But whatever I will say it and you can take it or leave it.
First, if the girl does Kegels it makes a huge difference.
Second, as mentioned in a previous comment positions also make a difference in how much sensation you get.
Last, and this is the more controversial advice that I wasn’t sure about giving, and if you try it make sure she’s into it. But this has worked pretty good for me. See if she’s willing to have a small butt plug in her ass while you have vaginal penetration. You’ll need to be more gentle and communicate a lot while doing it because it can feel like too much for the girl. But I found it’s definitely helped me in the past with partners with whom I wasn’t getting enough sensations. A narrow butt plug with a thick stopper works best because it’s less likely to come out or feel like too much for her.