I first noticed PE issues about a year ago. With that being said, several months ago I was in a pretty serious relationship, and these issues seemed to go away. Maybe it was because I was with someone I could trust and be open with? I vividly remember the first time getting with her I was so nervous. But I went down on her and she came really quick. This gave me more confidence and after this moment my PE went away. We had really good sex throughout our time together.
However, we had to break it off since we were moving away from each other. Flash forward to present day, and every situationship I’ve had since I’ve experienced PE. Last night I got with this girl I’ve been talking to. I’ve been on this app for just over a month, and made sure to refer to the trainings, exercising box breath and start stop method. After a decent amount of foreplay, I came before even getting inside her.
I’m 22 years old, I don’t know if this is a sign of low testosterone, poor mental health, or both? I drink on the weekends like any college student, but other than that I live a healthy lifestyle. Lift 5x per week, eat clean food, don’t smoke, get +8hrs or sleep. I also take supplements everyday including Tongkat Ali. This has been such a lingering stress in my life, as it makes me feel like less of a man. Should I try to test my hormone levels? Would it be crazy for me to find ways to medically increase my testosterone? I just feel so lost and would really love any guidance you all have. Thanks gentleman 
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If you’re getting off quickly that isn’t a sign of low hormones to me. Low hormones would mean you don’t have any urges and can’t get it up. If anything it sounds like your hormones are really high and that’s why you’re getting off so quickly.
Some guys jack off the morning before they see a partner so that they can last a lot longer later. Have you considered that?
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I appreciate the response man. Yea I’ve masturbated before having sex and that still didn’t seem to help. The only reason I bring up the hormones is bc I ran a quick Google search and saw that PE could be a sign of low testosterone
I have a similar problem and have had my testosterone tested I did come in a bit above average for my age but I doubt that’s the issue. I’m 23 and eat healthy and lift 5x a week as well I only drink on weekends or special occasions. I have had the similar issue of PE with new partners just due to nerves or focusing on it too much. The anxiety from this unfortunately has led to some issues with ED from time to time and made me feel uncomfortable with my current partner. I have never really had this issue with people in the past maybe only in the beginning of the relationship but never this far into it. I also just as a result feel a lot of pressure from my this person since it’s more of a situation ship. I know the feeling since it almost feels soul crushing at times and sometimes it’s all I can think about which just makes it worse. The times that I haven’t had this issue is when I don’t seem to care about it or pay attention to it and just feel confident in myself. It’s really hard not to focus on it especially when things are going well it pops into my mind that I don’t want it to happen and then it just goes down hill from there. It may help to try and focus on what made you comfortable with your last partner and focus on that which is what I’ve been trying to do as well.
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Thanks for the advice, it’s feels better to know that we aren’t alone with this dilemma. I think at the end of the day it’s all a mental game. Deep down I feel that I care too much about what people think of me. I put too much pressure on myself to please her. I overthink about how she will portray me to her friends. I need to be more confident like you said, and stop giving a shit about what people think of me
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