I have been with my girlfriend 2 years now and we’ve always had pretty bad sex because of my PE. 9/10 it happens although there has been times when it doesnt happen like when we are on holiday together or are staying in a hotel together for a night or so on (i dont know why maybe im more relaxed?). I always feel anxious and nervous about sex and i feel like my PE has caused this and its just becoming a vicious cycle. I stress that im not good enough for my girlfriend and she will end up getting tired of bad sex and move on. Also the past few weeks i’ve started finding it difficult to get an erection, i used to get one very easily and very hard. Definitely need to figure something out as i am only 22 year old, healthy male
Try breathing exercises, workout, try supplements like tribulus but only do like 1month on 1.5 months off. Kegals should help too, try yoga, meditation, eating healthy meals
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Going through a very similar thing. I’m 32 and have had PE on and off all my life. I know it’s a psychological thing for me and I know how to break out of it but it’s difficult to do in a relationship. Usually I get single, get chatting to girls, get confident in my own skin and it goes away. Obviously that’s not an option in a relationship. This time I’m very serious about my partner and have decided I need to fix this issue once and for all. I’ve come clean to her and told her about my struggles and have asked her to help. So we’ve slowed down our sex sessions. We start with oil massages, kissing, I pleasure her for a while and I practice slow breathing techniques throughout. By the time she’s orgasmed for the first time and she’s ready for me to go in, I’m cool as a cucumber and we’ve managed to have great sex. Communicating openly with your partner about PE really is the hardest but the most important step to tackling it. I understand how hard it is to take that step though, this is the only relationship I’ve ever been in where I’ve felt comfortable to speak up about it.
Outside of sex I’m edging every day for at least 20 minutes, sometimes 40 (without porn) and only ejaculating every 3rd day. This has helped as well. It’s taken a good month of discipline before I started to see results but it seems to be helping. Going to treat edging just like gym workouts from now on tbh. My goal is to completely master my own arousal.
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some great advice i appreciate your reply!