I do often wonder if never having been in a relationship is a factor in my ED

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Haven taken a while to come out, i normally can’t get hard the first time i am with someone, but get a bit better after i know them and we have done various foreplay things before. But still can never get hard enough / stay hard to top.

Once i know someone well, I can normally stay semi - fully hard for oral, giving and receiving.

In a reassuring way i met a guy recently who has similar issues, and he has never successfully topped before. Hoping i will get better with time and trying things on this app, as i would like to be able to top.

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I’m with a woman that is super understanding and encouraging! Being that you found a guy with similar issues - take advantage of your similarities and compare notes!! Be open and honest! I was with my gf and it’s been a game changer! I told her she may be able to help by talking kinda naughty in bed. Being confident and taking charge sometimes? Explicitly telling me what she wants! Directing my hand or tongue! We took a trip to an Adult toy store and that sparked some ideas.

Also- just talking about it with her helped take the pressure off. We also sometimes declare it’s “your” night. Meaning one takes care of the other- no reciprocation. That helps take the pressure off. (May not work with two guys with ED tho…:flushed:) but you could try other forms of play/pleasure without a hardon! My gf goes down on me for 20-30min when I have a softee and it’s out of this worked!! I use a silicone ring that helps….
My point is communication is key. I’m sure he knows lack of firmness does not mean you’re not into him or really want to play….
Let him know!!

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***please don’t be offended by me being straight…

Also. Gf and I were in an adult store that had a great selection of prostate toys that she got real interested in as there’s no hardon needed for that fun!!! Just a thought.
Good luck man!!:four_leaf_clover:

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Oh no, no offence taken.

I already have a amble supply of toys, as large toys are a kink for me.

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Oh, cool!
Hopefully he’s down for toy play and you can work things out from there!!??
sounds like you’ve got a good thing going!
Good luck!