Hey everyone. I’m a gay male and I’ve been with my partner for 5 years. We are in an open ish relationship (we always play together). I don’t have any ED with just my partner but I do when we hook up with someone new. I usually get there but it takes me a bit and then I sometimes climax quickly once I’m hard. My partner doesn’t have this issue and is always ready to go. Anyone else deal with this and have any tips on getting over it?
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Sounds like you’re just excited about a new partner and feeling new sensations which can mess with your head. I used to hookup with one bottom who would always make me cum pretty quickly too but with everyone else I could last forever. I think he enjoyed making guys bust early though so it wasn’t much of an issue, he’d ride me for 2 minutes then I’d pop every time, some guys just have a way about them
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Hey OP, I’m in the same boat as you. Except we usually keep our extracurricular activities separate. My husband and I have great sex together and I have no problem getting hard with him. But when I try hooking up with someone else, I get so much performance anxiety that I have trouble getting hard, even though I’m super into him. After it happens once, I worry that it will happen the next time, and then of course it does. But that’s what I’m here to fix.
I have the exact same issue, have a BF and when I am with him I am rock hard but if I play with another guy I just can’t get hard at all. I know it’s my inner critic telling me I am not going to get hard in advance of me playing with another guy. It is so frustrating as before i never had this issue but it’s getting progressively worse as time goes on. In my head I so much want to play with the other guy but my dick had other plans. It’s never an issue when my BF and I play with a third or go cruising. Hoping Mojo will help. Please let me know if you are able to over come.
This is really interesting. My partner and I are in therapy as considering ethical non-monogamy. My concern is the opposite. That I’ll have continued ED / low desire issues within the relationship but be highly effective with random people.