Hi. I’m in an open relationship. I’m a guy (primarily top). My partner is primarily a bottom. He did something a few months ago, and I was really hurt, and it shook the foundation of the relationship (we are at 3 years, btw)
I’ve had intimacy problems with him ever since. I love his companionship. I feel like things have gotten much better minus the fact that I can’t get it up for him. Like, my mind literally tells me no, not for him. It’s very strange I can be rock-hard for any other guy I’m hooking up with, but with him, i dont even get hard. I feel closed off and avoidant, and while he’s so patient and wouldn’t ever say anything, I want to get back to having sex with him. HELP!
Hey, sounds like a 1 on 1 or couples/sex therapist would be helpful. Nothing on here will help as it’s only with him. Move past it with him with pro help because it sounds like you’re still hurt by what happened
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Thanks you
I’m in the same situation right now. Rarely initiate sex with him anymore, even though when I’m jerking off I still fantasize about him. When we’re together, my body turns off. Good luck on your journey