I can get hard without porn by fantasising about gf

I’ve been pretty paranoid that I might have porn induced ed and it’s been making me kinda depressed thinking about the recovery time from that and etc.

But the fact I can get hard from thinking about situations with my gf makes me wonder if I even have it at all, I can pretty much get an erection whenever I want but when it comes to sex that’s when it gets a bit more difficult…hoping I only have performance anxiety since it seems easier and less long to overcome.

Sounds like you’re in your head. Good luck! I recommend making mojo a daily routine.

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I definitely am, I tend to be pretty tough on myself and kinda expect the worst of things which I realise doesn’t help.
But yeah I’ll definitely keep this as part of my routine.

Porn is not bad on its own, it can even help you in some case. However, if you are addicted to it (you are always thinking to watch porn, or you cannot get an arousal without it), or you feel bad about it, it’ better to stop using it, or figure out why you feel bad about it (religousness, content that you watch, etc). It’s just one stimuli among a lot that you can use. If you can get hard by using your fantasy, but you have problems when your partner is there, it’s definetly just some mental stuff that you can erase by meditation, and exercises that helps you getting rid of negative thoughs. Maybe sensation focus can also help to focus more on touch than visual stimuli too.

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Yeah I’m not always thinking about it but I will occasionally get the urge to jump on the Internet and go look at it which made me think I had an addiction (maybe a slight one)
I definitely need to do more meditation since I end up getting in my head a lot

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all good bro i’m in the same boat and only 20 me and my girl are taking a break now because it’s been happening for about 5 months now i’m just so drained mentally and out of ideas im not sure what to do. I don’t want to take pills I just wanna be able to get it up naturally and i’m 100% attracted to her it’s just when the moment happens I freeze and can’t get anything up. how’d you fix it bro?

I haven’t fixed it yet and I haven’t tried again yet either, if it’s just your anxiety getting you I’d say just keep doing the meditations, the breathing techniques, don’t focus on getting hard just enjoy the moment by trying to get her off and just take in what’s going on