So I was going on a no porn streak that started November 1st and I broke it last night. I don’t beat myself up on that too much, but I’m worried cause it usually messes with how hard my erections are for a bit.
I also may have an opportunity coming up to have sex but I’m nervous I won’t be able to get hard and perform the way I want to. Especially with a condom.
Any advice?
I was told by a sex therapist that it’s best to masturbate using sexual thoughts as opposed to porn. Something to do with different associations with arousal. Try that and I’m sure you’ll be OK. I was in a shit marriage and used porn a lot. Consequently, when I met another girl I struggled to get hard. I’ve managed to use porn less and less, relying on my imagination / fantasies instead. And I’m getting better hard ons. Try it. Best of luck.
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dont worry about relapse, all progres is not lost, just do it longer next time…
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Appreciate it!
I’ll try this out! Thanks
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In terms of cutting out porn use, the easypeasy method is a book that really just made it all click for me and stopped my porn use entirely. Would highly recommend it
You’re only human so don’t expect to make such a big change and not revert now and then.
Your inner critic is planting the seeds of doubt in your head. Don’t listen to it or at least have the conversation where you argue both sides with facts. The future hasn’t happened so don’t think of the negative options, imagine how good it will be and the pleasure you’ll feel and the deeper connection you’ll make with your partner.
Fantasise about what you’ll do next time and how it will all go. Keep doing that and even masturbate with those fantasies. Stay focussed and use your breathing exersises to relax and stay present when the time comes just enjoying the sensations with no pressure.
Keep up the great work.