I am 20 years old and have never been able to get a good erection during sex

I am 20 years old, from every sexual encounter I’ve had, I have never been able to get hard, not once, I am in great physical shape and eat a decent diet, it weighs on my mind 24/7, I fear I will never in my life get to experience actual sexual with a female due to this issue. I don’t know what the problem is, I know I’m attracted to women, I do watch porn but not every day. I don’t know if it is because I’m subconscious about my size or another factor

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Hi mate, I feel for you I really do. If you have ruled out any physiological issues then I’m sure this programme will help. Sex is a head game and I’m learning that being too much in my head and worrying about disappointing the person I’m having sex with again just creates a vicious cycle of more anxiety and no erection. Have hope mate, you will get there but try and not put pressure on it and I know that’s easier said than done :wink:


I am in the same exact boat as you, or atleast I was but I’m still suffering through it here and there. I had a girlfriend and for months I couldn’t get hard at all. I’m 20 and also in good shape so then that puts added pressure because it’s like they expect you to give this amazing great 10/10 sex, but the reality is girls expectations are actually seemingly low. This course will help u but just also keep in mind that it’s okay not to get hard, most girls won’t trip over it. Once you understand it’s okay to not get hard, you will get hard

Hey man, good to know there are other people my age going through this, we will get it worked out brother just got to have patience and hope!!

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Thanks for the advice, you’re right it’s definitely something in my head. I am also super adhd and it is hard for me to stay focused for too long when the time comes as well, I think that has a lot to do with me not being able to get it up to its full potential as well

I’d ask if the women you were unable to perform with “checked all the boxes” - or if there was something about your compatibility that failed to get your motor runnin’.

Maybe it’s that “I SHOULD be wanting to have sex with her” rather than “I WANT to have sex with her”?