I’ve been struggling with getting erections for a while now, and it’s gotten worse. Thanks to this app and counseling, I’m seeing some slow but steady progress. One issue, however, is that my wife definitely sees my ED as my issue to resolve, not an issue to work through together. Any suggestions?
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My gf asked how she can help. Over the course of the last few months I’ve come up with a few suggestions that have helped me mentally or physically…
Be verbal during sex. I love explicit talk. Nod filthy, but naughty….
Be confident in bed. Don’t ask if you can do ____. Just do it. I’ll enjoy it, if I don’t, I’ll politely say something.
Nothing to be embarrassed about in bed.
Tell me what you want. If you’d like me to do something different, faster, slower, not at all or later in the session, let me know.
I’ve asked her not to be so intense on the underside of the head when giving oral…
I asked her one time if my precum tasted ok, she immediately stuck her finger in my mouth. - I thought that was super hot. I’ve started putting my fingers in her mouth to get them wet before I finger her. She seems to like it and has started doing the same to me!
Just honest, simple conversation. Simple asks. You don’t even have to phrase it as something that may help ‘your’ issue.
I say it’s my issue, because I had it prior to her and I don’t want to put it on her or allow her to feel responsible in any way for my PED. Thankfully, she’s willing to help!!!
Best wishes man!!! 