Hey everyone, I’ve been dealing with early climax issues over the past eight months. Recently, I’ve been talking to this girl whom I really like. We have plans to hang out next week. If it gets to the point where we are in bed together, how should I bring up my early climax issues? I don’t want to be blunt about it and ruin the mood. And I also don’t want it seem like there’s something wrong with her either. I feel that addressing my issues will help take stress off my back, and lead to discovering other ways to pleasure her, which will make me more relaxed. Any advice is much appreciated!
Hey, i’ve had similar issues in the past - I usually explain the situation (in a non self-pitying way and without apoligising needlessly), after that first sexual encounter IF indeed it doesn’t go as you would like. As you say, you don’t want to kill the vibe beforehand but I would hope she would be understanding afterwards. It could even lead to greater emotional intimacy between you - i’ve found that this happens in the past. Good luck!
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I did similar discussing my PED… we waited a few weeks for her to get tested and avoid condoms. So we had some time to explore and make out a lot. I did get her off with my hand a few times. We have great pillow talk and I matter if facts brought it up early on.
I made sure to reinforce that it was my issue and has nothing to do with how I see or feel about her. She does have some body shame issues as do I. So I make sure to compliment her a lot about how pretty she is and what parts of her body really turn me on! I love going down on her and she’s very receptive! She was very inexperienced at giving oral. She’s turned into a great c sucker!! It’s been 6 months and we’re finally getting to the point of reliable erections 70% hard and enough for me to go 10-15 min!!
It’s still an uphill battle but it can be done!!!
Keep plugging away at it!!
Good luck 
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I should add I did suggest there are a few ways that she might be able to help:
Naughty talk in the bedroom - not filthy or degrading! Just be specific in what she wants or wants to do with me.
Be confident in her actions. If you want to suck on me - just do it. Don’t ask. Or you want me to use just 1 finger with a toy or my tongue on your clit- tell me what you specifically want. I’m here to make you feel amazing and I need to realize the same about her.
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