How many sex partners have you had in the course of your life?

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How many sex partners have you had in the course of your life?

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Iā€™m guessing Iā€™m in the minority here but Iā€™m almost 40 and have had 5 partners. All of which were serious relationships.

1 was a rebound type thing, thatā€™s where my issues started.

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Iā€™ve had 9 so far but only one was serious.

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Iā€™ve had over 15 with some being serious relationships and most being hookups i honestly regret the hook ups a lotā€¦

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why do you regret them ?

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Iā€™m 57 years old and have had 18 sexual partners, with the majority of those in the last 10 years (got divorced, started having fun).

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Iā€™m 32. Iā€™ve had 14 sexual partners, with 8 of them being women that joined my current girlfriend and I for threesomes. The ones prior to my current girlfriend I was dating exclusively, the first of which I was married to.

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I have struggled with compulsive sexual behavior (akin to sex addiction) and low self esteem when it comes to feeling attractive and I overcompensated with a lot of dating and sex.

Iā€™ve had over 70 partners from one night stands to years-long relationships. Iā€™ve also had almost as many paid encounters via escorts or massages with ā€œextrasā€. My feelings of inadequacy have lead me to several experiences Iā€™d rather hadnā€™t happened but also ended up giving me a lot more confidence in some ways. Yet the anxiety remains!

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Im 36. Married since i was 23 and in the process now of getting divorced.
6 sexual partners. Love sex but wasnt much for 1 nighters.

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Iā€™ve had upwards of 200 one night stands, Iā€™m 38 now.

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iā€™m 39, and apparently Iā€™ve had 27 partners, i did not realize it was so many. Only four of those were within a relationship, the rest being a few short flings or some one-night stands.

19 included vaginal penetration, 2 were oral/manual only (one of these was a paid encounter), and 4 one-night stands ā€œfailedā€ due to ED but there was still some form of sexual contact. Most encounters included an initial ED incident, that resolved as i got more comfortable with the person. However, usually the less i cared about the encounter, the easier an erection was and the longer i would last.

I honestly cringe when i think about all those; i was craving validation but wound up treating others poorly and ultimately did nothing to help my own sense of worth. At least i gained experience in making my partner feel good (especially while my dick was taking a time-out), but now that iā€™m in an amazing relationship with a wonderful woman i wish my past were a little less embarrassing. Plus my ED has been a bigger problem now with her than with those dozens of others, because iā€™ve never cared this much. Cruel irony!

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Hey thank you so much for you reply. I am a bit confused: why did you treat them poorly? and why do you feel embarrassing for what happened. I donā€™t think there is anything to feel embarrassed about especially in the sphere of sex.

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I treated them poorly without realizing it; i considered myself a nice person, but i had a pattern of making a girl feel really special and cared about w, then after sleeping together a couple times i would totally lose interest and usually just ghost them, or worse if i did talk to them iā€™d be cold. It often left them confused and feeling used.

As for why iā€™m embarrassed, thatā€™s a really good question! I really donā€™t know why, but i would just hate for my girlfriend now to know the extent of all that. I guess youā€™ve helped me see that i still carry shame in my attitude toward sex

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What about you, and what made you want to ask?