I like to keep a level of contact/staying close going. So going from foreplay to putting on a condom, I would go back to making out once I know it’s the right way round, just have to pull it down. While I do that, I start to make out and build up contact again.
Right now I don’t - I rush between stopping foreplay, getting the condom on and penetration.
But in the future I could go with the energy in the room, either keep the humour going or the intensity. I really enjoy kissing so maybe I could try that.
My wife gets horny in the car and will sometimes want me to masturbate her or to put on some audio porn. The danger of doing this has put me off. What I found hot though is if we masturbated or touched ourselves we could safely taste our fingers and that was hotter. It didn’t help me fix how difficult I find masturbsting her but it kept the sexy flow going.
I bring her hand to my dick when it’s hard, and then she blows me until I’m super hard then I fuck her, taking my time to enjoy it. Then I go down on her at the end if she hasn’t gotten off or wants me to go down on her.
Be in the moment. Touch, kiss, lick, playfully flirt, have fun, ect.
I try to get her to lick my balls while I’m putting the condom on
Trying not to think of anything and being in the moment
Maintaining sensual contact, gaze, touching, smelling seems like what will help me keep the flow going. This question is difficult because lately I have not kept the flow going and don’t really remember how I did.
Laughter
I talked to my partner
Keeping it fun and lighthearted usually works, I find thats when im not focused so much on my issues. Even then problems can occur.
For me, it is important to always go back to making out: kissing and using the tongue a lot. If the other doesn’t feel, for me, like a good kisser or doesn’t really use the tongue, total mood/erection killer for me. And that’s so common.
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If I start to notice I’m losing my erection I’ll carry on with foreplay. If I do lose my erection all together then I’ll continue with foreplay until my erection comes back, which usually works. Sometimes doesn’t
Discussing any concerns with my partner can sometimes help as it removes some of the pressure. But this is difficult when you’re single / casually dating as I worry about it being a turn off and you have to trust that person enough to be open.
I think a lack of control is part of the problem for me. I prefer to know someone well enough to not use a condom so when it is requested of me it feels like I am loosing control
When things go off track, I like to recenter with a few minutes of eye contact, which can be a little nerve-wracking, but usually ends in increased connection and a few giggles
I try to focus on her pleasure.
Physical affection stroking touching legs certain feels
And textures of clothing arouse me.
My best results have always been when I’m able to stay in the moment and just have fun with this person with whom i am sharing this time and connection. My anxiety regularly gets in the way of this being the normal situation for me so hopefully this program can remind me and everyone else here how to do that.
I have no clue