Anxiety with new women and condoms

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Hello new to this community. Willing to try digging into my own mind at this point because I’ve been ignoring this issue for far too long. Here goes. So many years ago, in my teens mostly, I was confident sexually (for the most part) and never had any issues with sex. But one night I was fumbling with this condom in the dark… and well you know where it goes from there… I had to stop and explain to her what had happened and naturally she was disappointed and I was embarrassed. Ever since then, I’ve had this fear that something similar will happen again. I have no issue faking the confidence, or with foreplay (usually), but as soon as push comes to shove and I know she expects to get laid… then it happens and I lose it. Then there’s always this awkward … cold anxious feeling… conversation and the night almost always ends in disappointment. I do not have this problem when I’m in a relationship… once I’m comfortable with someone, everything is fine. Sex is normal again. But as soon as I’m single and trying to see new women, it’s right back to this situational psychological ED. I avoid even having sex most of the time because I know what’s going to happen. I make up some bullshit that I’m not into sex on the first date or whatever and I always feel weird saying it because who honestly believes that? I just want to get out of my head. Has anyone had any similar issues? And had anyone had any success with this Mojo thing?

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Hello I have the same thing. Mainly my ED is from condom issues, since putting it stops the whole sexy procedure and put all pressure on these seconds. I also found myself avoiding moving things to sex for that reason. For sure mojo can help with that as long as we work on ourselves (mainly on our brains).

I would recommend to talk about this with the girl even if you just met her the same night. It’s better to have informed her so that a big amount of pressure will be away. Something like "just for you to know sometimes when it’s time to put condom it may fall, but it has nothing to do with you. It’s because my mind focus on condom instead of the ". And if it happens she will be prepared for that and not disappointed. So you can continue with foreplay or whatever and then you can try again.

Something else could be, the moment before you try to put condom when you are still hard, to visualise you being inside her or whatever thought can keep you really hard, so by doing this your mind will not have time to think negative thoughts

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Yeah mate. When i tried losing my virginity i got major performance ED. I could be well hard for 4play and hand jobs but as soon as put on a condom i lost it instantly.
I spoke to my doctor about it and he diagnosed me with performance anxiety.
He gave me some viagra to get things going properly. It worked well and boosted my confidence to carry on without it.
Good luck i hope this helps.

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