I’ve been using mojo, and overall it’s really helped in terms of mindfulness and being in my own body.
I’ve got no issues getting erect + climaxing when watching porn or reading erotic fiction, but I noticed that I really have to use my hand to get myself the erection and then on the brink of orgasm (in addition to erotic stimuli).
Without these, I can still get a bit horny with the libido topper audios, or a bit erect with my imagination, but nowhere near completely hard, and definitely not to orgasm state. How did you guys learn to be okay with not having an orgasm with every session? I feel like I can’t resist going all the way, even if I have to force it with my hand.
How did you guys learn to get pulled the the orgasm state with sensation + imagination?
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We pushed a fantasy into real life and it has helped us. But I suspect we were lucky. Neither of us are really into porn.
The key for me is to take it slow. I often start with a little box breathing and simply relax on the bed for a minute. When I start, I focus on touching myself places beside my dick first. Lightly running my fingers over my stomach, thighs, etc, and just focus on the sensation, not the urge to cum in a hurry.
Once I start to get hard, I’ll slowly begin to work my dick, but slowly and while still focusing on the other body parts that felt good in the initial build up. Some sort of lube or oil helps a ton.
As things begin to build, my attention obviously concentrates on my dick a bunch more and I try using other parts of my hand to keep things going… Tips of the fingers, the space between the fingers, sometimes the finger nails. The key the whole time is to focus on the feeling you’re creating, not the finish line.
If you don’t cum, don’t sweat it. Just use the horniness you created to build anticipation for your next session, even if that session happens relatively soon.
Lastly, I would say music helps me keep my focus on the pleasure and not the finish line. If I put on some laid back tunes, especially something that’s been on in the background when having sex with a partner, I find i can really just relax and enjoy the sensation without worrying too much about how soon I’ll cum.