Im a 26 year old male been with my wife for a long time now and have been having issues on and off for the past year. Last night I tried to pursue and was in the mood. While making out all the sudden I lost my boner and my heart started beating like crazy. I believe this is my fight or floght response. Focusing on my breathe doesnt help me, only distracts me from her which also kills my erection.
Anything other than focusing on the breathe help reduce the fight or flight response?
Just let her ease you back into it with her hand or mouth. Talk to her about your issues and your attempts to resolve them so you’re more comfortable. It’s normal bro it happens. It’s totally possible to lose your hard on and get it back
I would also recommend practicing getting an erection on your own losing it and then regaining it do that three or four times to prove yourself that it has nothing to do with your ability to get an erection it’s strictly psychological. There are different practices in this app that you can do . On top of that remind yourself in the moment of all the times that you’ve had zero issue and how much your wife turns you on. If you have different times that you’ve had really good sex keep those handy in your mind and when things start to go south quickly go to those mentally. Hope this helps!
Thanks for the advice. Ive been practicing kegals alot but I should be more consistent with the wax and wane exercise as well. Im aroumd 6 weeks clean of porn use as well. Trying to stay on the right track.
That’s awesome ! Proud of you for that This is a huge deal and ultimately in the long run you will have a much healthier sex life with your wife . After my wife and I gave up watching porn our sex life definitely improved and that was not what I expected! It has been probably 5 years now and definitely one of the best decisions that Ive made next to quitting drinking. Just remember take it one day at a time and try hard not to overthink and enjoy the time that you have with your wife. My neighbor was just over this morning and he said something pretty profound his wife passed away a year ago and he said he just wished that he would’ve had more time with her. Enjoy your wife God wants you to do that and he will bless that relationship if you honor and love her. You’ll get back on track I guarantee! God bless you !