My first experience was a non starter aged 18. 100% nerves. I’m 40 now and for the last 22 years had severe performance anxiety. I have been married with my wife for 18 years, she has been amazing! The situation has got progressively worse as the years have gone on. Our sex life is now non existent, she says she has a love sex drive but in 100% certain that she blames herself and feels that I’m not attracted to her, which for the record couldn’t be further from the truth. I’ve the past year I have not maintained one erection sufficient enough to have intercourse. I have always believed it was in my head but I wonder is there more too it, is there something physically wrong with me?!
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Probably not mate, seems very very likely that it’s anxiety! I’ve been with my wife for 16 years, my first experience with sex was bad because of nerves. I’ve had performance anxiety for pretty much the entirety of our relationship. And we have been having less and less sex. So you are not alone, this is a common issue. Talking therapy and the tools in apps like these can and will help. Keep at it. Try not to lose hope.
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I just lost a 23 year marriage due to this exact thing!
Work this app. Read all the topics and answers and the success stories.
But most of all- go see a therapist with her as well as another one that specializes in sex therapy!
I wish I did it. I was too embarrassed.
I tried pills and they didn’t help. Turns out my head wouldn’t allow the pills to work….
I’m not fixed yet, but I understand a lot more and can explain it to my gf and help her understand it’s NOT her and was she can help and not hurt my situation…