New member here. For as long as I remember I’ve had a bondage kink. I blame Teri Hatcher when she was being tied up as Lois layne in the superman series! I know I’ll never get rid of this but I find it hard to get as excited by traditional sex which makes me feel really depressed. Has anyone else had a similar problem with a kink and learned to overcome it?
I’m sorry I can’t be more help but I just wanted to say I’m in a similar boat. My fantasies pretty much revolve around spanking (mostly F/f stuff but sometimes imagining myself as top or bottom) and this is something my wife’s not really into. I don’t always have to think about my kink to climax but it always takes a long time, I lose my erection a lot and it means sex gets very focused on whether I can climax and it is definitely part of the reason my marriage is at real risk of falling apart. Hopefully there’s someone here with a success story.
It sound like this is more of a fetish than a kink. For example someone who finds spanking arousing has a spanking kink, but someone who NEEDS spanking to be present during sex in order to experience arousal has a spanking fetish. It was explained to me at a fetish event that if it need to be present in order to cum it’s a fetish, a kink is just something that sexually excites you but you can still climax without it.
I say embrace your fetish and talk to your partners so you can experience sex you both enjoy.
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Do you think it’s possible to get pleasure from traditional sex for people that have a fetish? I have a weird fetish and honestly just want to be able to enjoy normal sex with girls. I don’t always want to engage in fetish activity as it can put people off me