Usually happens during missionary, I’ve recently noticed trying to force my dry penis into her vagina causes me to go soft. It results in me getting really frustrated and upset as I feel embarrassed. I don’t know what to do
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Oh wow this is me! The fact that it’s happened a fair few times though means it almost becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. I have caved in recently and gone with viagra though which has definitely helped for what I hope will be a temporary fix rather than a permanent one. Felt like I just needed to break the negative cycle though for a bit as otherwise it’s a vicious circle you get stuck in 
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Just joined up - I have exactly the same issue, usually always hard foreplay but the minute I get my penis ready to insert, I start to loose it
Same here, I stay hard during foreplay and then slowly fade away when I’m penetrating. I’m lucky that my partner understands and loves making me orgasm in other ways too, but I’d just like to be able to give her more.
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I had exactly the same. Realised for me at that point it wasn’t me, just needed more lubricant ie spit or actual lube! Made a massive difference. Maybe doing more foreplay might also help 
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Missionary is the one i struggle with too. Get her to lie on her stomach with her legs closed. Deep penetration that hits the spot but also feels amazing for you.
Same situation. Can I ask other ways your partner makes you cum?
She was in an almost sexless marriage for 15 years. We’re both 50ish (which might partially explain my ED issues), but since we met, she has been absolutely ravenous. Every time we meet it’s sex straight away! She wants to learn and please me, so her oral and hand jobs are amazing. After my previous 23 year relationship (2 amazing daughters) disintegrating after my partner had an affair, my confidence hot rock bottom and stress increased terribly. I never thought I would have a 2nd chance, and to meet somebody who wants to try everything in bed is unbelievable. That’s why, when I can’t get hard, I feel like I’m letting her down.
She enjoys giving hand jobs and absolutely loves oral. We found using coconut oil as a lubricant really helps.
She enjoys handjobs and absolutely loves giving oral. We use coconut oil as a lubricant which she loves too.
Try to stay mentally relaxed even when you’re in different body positions. If you’re tense or exerting a lot of effort holding yourself up that might explain why you’re not staying hard
I seem onto not get naturally erect, just by seeing,requires physical touch. Then goes limo inside. I hadn’t had that the last night I had sex frequently.