For anyone with anxiety around sex and/or problems due to porn and death grip, I can really recommend buying a masturbator and fucking that thing.
I bought one and fuck it whilst visualising that I’m fucking my gf when I’m not with her. It feels much more realistic than wanking, as I’m thrusting and concentrating on the visualisation and the sensations in my penis.
I already feel more confident about fucking my gf, and feel like I can get rid of this death grip issue, so I can tune in to the sensations I feel when she is pleasuring me. I find it difficult to reach my climax when I’m inside my gf, but since I’ve been able to come inside the masturbator while thrusting and thinking of her, I’m confident that I can do it with her as well. I’ll see my gf this weekend. Hoping that I can already enjoy some results.