I am 27 and havn’t had what i would consider succesful sex in 5 years. I broke up wiith my long term girlfriend when I was about 22. I experienced ED my first hook up after the break up, it was more from nerves though, they took over and i was totally in my head and didnt even give it a fair shot. From that failed hookup onward, In the last five years, i have had give or take 15 sexual partners, with varying degrees of success in terms of the actual sex. Some times having penetrative sex but not being as hard as i wanted, but never climaxing from penetration. About 3 years ago I had a string of hook ups that i carried a lot of shame about, i felt very embarrased by them and in tandem with gaining weight and having body image issues, i started to avoid hook ups all together. I began activly curving girls that were interested in me, and to some degree this became apparent and i assume talked about by my larger social circle, which just snowballed into deeper anxiety and shame. I am now discovering how detrimental this was not only to my sex life but my mental health at large.
This past year I got in shape, started feeling attractive again, realized how diet also effects my anxiety and stress levels. Someone i liked took interest in me recently and we just started to hang out these past few weeks. With mojo and meditation I have gone from utterly hopeless and convinced i am a inherently dysfunctional human / forever-alone, to being genuinley optimistic about sex and relationships. So far we have hooked up several times. No penetrative sex yet (I make sure she leaves satisfied though), but i am enjoying our hookups in other ways. She makes me feel totally comfortable about my issues. I feel no pressure, and have realized that I have to be open to unsuccessful hook ups and not run away from them, every one is a step in the right direction if your utilizing all the tools mojo offers. Exposure to your fears is key. Without putting pressure on myself, i feel confident that I will have sucessfull sex soon, and I think that mindset is key to have.
I mostly wanted to write this to give hope to anyone out there who feels like they are broken, and will never be fixed, and will never find physical intamacy, and will never find love. Self-acceptance is key, but ED is so shamefull and tabboo that guys would rather push it away and not adress it than admit they have a problem. Its sad. But by using the breadth of tools on this app you will see results. Im greatfull for mojo, In a month it’s given me more hope than ive had in years.
Does anyone else have a similar story that has successfully overcome their SED?
up front about my Ed. She’s super supportive, encouraging, understanding and seems to be satisfied with my oral and finger skills…. She even plays into a couple of my kinks with erotic talk during sex…