Fantasizing of other women

Gents -

Been with my wife for a little over 10 years now and the sex has gotten stale. I constantly find myself attracted and fantasizing about other women that aren’t her and have no motivation to have sex when I’m around her…but I see other women and feel like I can get revved up immediately. Hoping this app can change that, any thoughts? Hoping someone else has had a similar experience…

You can’t negotiate attraction, which it sounds like you are trying to do with yourself.

Have you talked to your wife about this? I mean didn’t use those words but something. Maybe see a sex therapist?