Hi, I’ve had what I can only call PE for a few months now. I do not have ED luckily however, I have been in a new relationship with a girl I am very into for 6 months now. We have had penetrated sex about 60 odd times I would say. However the last couple of weeks I’ve had a bout of anxiety from sex which is odd. It’s happened in batches during the relationship where I lose my erection just when I notice the stimuli to have sex. So for example I am more or less constantly hard when I am not trying to have sex with my GF, mornings, just looking at her, he’ll even a video call I’ll get one. Even happens in public sometimes lol. However when we are about to have sex sometimes I lose my erection when trying to get it in. She is very tight so I have to go down on her to get her warmed up (something I love doing). However if I go down on her my erection goes as I am concentrating so hard on giving her good head. Then there’s that middle phase of waiting for him to come back up where I get really stuck in my head. Just like shouting at my penis in my head and spectatoring like please work please work. Other instances will be me getting an anxious feeling of excitement when she gets naked and starts indicating that we are about to do it. She’ll go bathroom and come back and then my erection will die due to the excitement. It’s almost as if I need to channel my energy of excitement into a more relaxed state of excitement. It’s very odd as I’ve had enough sex with her and in my life but I still get so excited like a teenager sometimes. It has caused issues in the past as sometimes when sex comes around more naturally it’s fine but the more planned the worse it gets. A couple of days ago we wanted to fuck and once my penis got hard it died from excitement and it took 3 hours and 3 attempts to finally have really good sex. The issue for me is getting going, once I’m in I’m great and can go for an hour if I want but it’s the getting there I find so difficult all of a sudden
Perfectly normal to not have a continuous boner/have it go away while you’re spending time going down on her and concentrating while not receiving any physical stimulation yourself! Don’t worry about that, she is very much not caring about the state of your erection during that!
Exact same for me too, I’m completely fine, get normal morning wood more often than not and can get an erection solo, the minute it becomes real with my GF it’s like a chemical fire in the brain
In the 10 years I’ve been having sex, whether Ive had ED or not regularly, I’ve never kept a full erection through giving a girl head and most of the time it might completely go. It’s completely normal. Give yourself a break, enjoy the occasion and I promise you it’s more likely to come back than if you try and get it back.
Trying to get a boner doesn’t give you a boner, being turned on does