Erectile dysfunction issues now whilst masturbating

Hey everyone, first time poster and relatively new member (4 weeks) and have been doing regular meditation, breathing techniques and listened to the therapy sessions. Iv had problems getting it up with partners for years, which is what has led me here, but never had any problems whatsoever with masturbation, until now.

Ever since doing these exercises and trying to control my inner critic it feels like Iv now awoken an inner critic with masturbation and I can now think myself out of an erection while masturbating - proving it’s completely in my head, as probably with most people here. Iv always masturbated to porn which i have now stopped watching and thinking maybe that is why, potentially.

Has anyone else encountered a similar issue? If so I’m hoping there might be some success stories to get out of your head during both sex and masturbation? I’m trying to stick with the breathing techniques etc and will continue to do so, but a little frustrated and anxious - any tips??

Hi there,

Your situation sounds almost exactly the same as me and I also joined Mojo around 4 weeks ago. I’ve been dealing with ED coming and going for years, and now almost a year into a relationship with a woman I love and that I am incredibly attracted to, my ED keeps returning and I keep getting in my head.

As late as today, I was doing directed masturbation and I got turned on and aroused from my own touch, although I couldn’t get an erection. Then I turned on a little visual stimulation and next thing I know my erection came and I was able to masturbate.

This confirms for me, that it is indeed psychological and something that can be fixed.

I will keep working on myself through Mojo and will also in 2 days start therapy for the first time, to deal with what might be inside me that I’ve never spoken with anyone about.,

Keep with it and I am sure that we will both overcome this! Let’s share our experience and journey to help each other!

Hi there,

I can relate to what you both are saying and have been experiencing my self. But I am new to all this and can you please help me with below questions that I have?

  1. I can get it hard while masturbating and particularly while watching porn on the screen. I tried masturbating without a visual medium, and it takes time as I need to visualise things. And when I am with my partner, it doesn’t get hard so easily. After a while if it gets hard, it almost doesn’t stay hard enough to penetrate. Is this a clear sign of psychological ED? I am concerned because, I have some underlying health conditions but Doctors ruled it out saying they are not strong enough to trigger ED. Please share your thoughts.
  2. Also, I would like to know if meditation and breathing techniques are helping and how can I start/learn them?
    Thanks a lot for sharing your stories.