I get hard when we have sex with my girlfriend, she turns me on even without trying much. (My relationship is long distance so we don’t meet much) .The problem comes in when i try having sex with a different girl.During foreplay, i get hard but not as much,but upon penetration i become soft. It started with one girl before and i didn’t feel great about myself, i tried again later but still failed. Any time i try penetration, i question myself if I’ll be able to stay hard and i inturn lose my hardness. I now avoid sexual encouters with new women 'cause am afraid i won’t be able to do it. I’ve also tried quitting porn but it’s like am addicted to it. I hope this mojo will help me.
I presume you are in an open relationship then? Maybe it’s an emotional thing for you and self consciously you don’t want to have sex with other women. I know that was the case for me. When I was single I had an encounter and I could cum at all but now with my partner I can all the time and it’s cause of that emotional intimacy we have. Not saying that’s the case for you but just throwing the idea out there