Yes. I often want my partner to be as caring or focused on me during sex as a woman is in porn. In porn, it seems to be all about me, which is nice.
Somewhat, both are different but I have realised how powerful certain kinks promoted by porn can turn me on compared to real life sex. In that regard I feel a bit desensitised.
Porn has told me that men are supposed to be muscular, pumping with testosterone, the leader in sex acts, always hard, and thrusting vigourously. Itās taught me that women have large breasts, big butts and should submit to anything their man wants to do.
Porn has made me self conscious about my looks, penis size and how long can I last. It has convinced me that your penis size and how good are you in bed is one of the most important things women look in men. I have realized over the years I have started questioning my masculinity and a lot of it is to do with porn. On a different note I get aroused watching some kinky porn and this has lead me to believe that I can never enjoy normal sex with my partner unless there is some kink
At first I felt guilt and shame for using porn to masterbate. I thought it might help with my problem of not being able to maintain an erection with my wife. Iām no longer ashamed or feel guilt. Porn is the only way I can maintain an errection and ejaculate. Even with porn Iāll have issues at times when I spectator. This course has really helped make me realize whatās wrong and how I can work through it. That Iām not alone.
Iām not sure my problems are to do with porn itself or if seeing these super-hard dicks just makes me feel worse about my problem sometimes
No, I know that porn is sexual atheletes acting out fantasies. I know most men donāt have dicks that big, women donāt act like that in real life, itās all made up to create a sex moment on video to wank to
One you go Brazilian Fart Fetish you canāt go back to Playboyā¦a joke, but only sort of. Modern porn has so many options, I think i3 need to contantly change to the next type of video to keep my momentum going.
Cam girls are something else entirely, and my latest addiction. I think that watchimg live girls does something different to my head than regular porn, it feela more like I am cheating.
Porn has made me feel bad about finishing fast or not getting it up. I used to feel self conscious about size but now I donāt.
I think Iāve done a good job of separating porn and real life sex. The only aspect that I do tend to compare myself and porn with is the length of the act. Itās difficult to watch porn and see these guys go for 20 min + while I ejaculate within 2 minutes while having sex. Itās hard to remind myself that even though they have that ability, at the end of the day, I am giving myself tough expectations.
Guys in porn sometimes film several times in a day to create a video, they come more than once. They also have constant sex and are desensitised to it because they need to be, to pay their bills (guys in porn are not paid much). So itās not a fair comparison. You may as well wonder why you donāt drive as well as a race car driver.
I feel entirely inadequate as a male specimen.
Only when the guy has an erection way before me
I feel like I should always be satisfying my partner and i take any hint of un satisfaction to mean they arenāt enjoying it
To be a sex God and satisfy my sexual partners every time. Also be able to use lots of different positions and cum every time.
Yes, I know that porn is a fiction, but I cannot help comparing me and my partner.
The expectations are that I have to keep the erection all the time, my partner has to reach orgasm before I do, and sex will be perfect always and there wonāt be any input that might cause a lose of focus (dogs barking, or people talking in the street, funny smellsā¦)
I feel like I used to be able to get hard, even just for masturbation, by using thoughts to get me turned on. But in the last 3 or 4 years Iāve been relying more and more on porn just to enable me to get hard to masturbate. I wonder if this effects me from performing properly during sex.
Porn does make me feel inadequate for not being immediately ready to go and to be able to last for ages or be rock hard all the time. Iāve definitely felt that over the years Iāve needed to watch harder and more twisted stuff to get similarly aroused and the more I watch the more I realise itās all pretty disgusting. I certainly used to get a lot more excitement out of watching porn, now itās mostly just an easy way to get off but Iāll often feel quite low immediately after Iāve come.
Everything is seen through the lens of porn. Everything that doesnāt measure up is therefore diminished. I wish I had never seen a frame of it.
Being anxious about real life sex I turned to porn. Now I feel Iāve watched so much porn that I always need to use those images if iām having sex in real life in order to stay hard and cum. Itās also meant that I feel real life sex must mimic porn scenes as much as possible.