Do you ever compare yourself, partners, or the sex you have to porn?

What expectations has porn taught you?

When I watch porn and pmo I feel immense sensations.

But I only get sensations to certain fantasies.

But while having sex, I don’t feel any sensation. I can stay hard enough for penetration, but there is no sensation.

However, while having sex, if I Imagine a porn star, I start feeling slight sensations and ejaculate almost immediately.

I don’t get arousal from my partner, but I get arousal from imagining fantasy in my head and I Carry that arousal to sex.

Porn has led me to believe you either please your partner or they leave or cheat

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Porn has made me self conscious about my penis size and the duration of sex. The biggest impact is the visual stimulation it has on me, when i’m having sex it is more difficult to be sexually aroused as the visual stimulation isn’t there

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The major expectation that a gathered from porn growing up was that as the man you always have to in charge of the positions and have to be able to do many different positions in a single ‘session’

I try not to compare as I know porn is one of those things that’s there to sate your deepest, darkest fantasies. But I feel fairly convinced that porn has desensitised me so it takes more to get me aroused.

I’m not as good as the porn actors

To be hard from the very first moment and at all times. Also a false thing that porn has taught me is to be more aroused to visual than touch

That sex should last for a long time and women are constantly aroused thru sex

Porn has desensitised me to actual sexual activity. I feel more comfortable on my own.

I think that porn has desensitised me somewhat, in that I need to see/imagine fairly hardcore sex in order to get turned on. It means that more gentle, passionate sex is less likely to get me to orgasm

I compare myself. I should be able to get hard quickly and stay hard the entire time

I have compared. The behaviours and bodies of the people in the porn set the wrong expectations about what sex really looks like. The amount of visual stimulation and the sheer access to the hottest girls doing the things I find the hottest in the bedroom, instantly, is way overstimulating. Any prolonged period I’ve been off porn, it takes way less for me to get aroused.

Porn has scenarios and I feel trained to be turned on from scenarios. Getting arouse is difficult if I don’t think of these scenarios. And then if I don’t get hard right away I worry and get anxious.

I think when I was younger, I’d compare my own performance to what I’d seen in porn. Not so much as I’ve gotten more experience. But I still think I retain expectations around common stuff I see in porn, like always needing to cum or having sex be male-dominant.

I always get anxious and self conscious if I cannot live up to the standards set from porn. Also, important note that porn was basically all of my sex Ed.

I often convince myself everyone is expecting mind-blowing sex and that I’m just simply not good enough as I can’t even get it up.

I feel like as the man I have to take charge and be constantly pleasing my partner or she’ll think I’m not as good as her previous partners

Yes, over dick size and stamina. I have def experienced jealousy over how long the guys last, and that always fed a slight anxiety. I think this exercise has reminded me I need to some time away from it, and focus in my own empowering fantasies for masturbating

that it is intense all the time. That women experience a heightened sexuality all the Tim.