I (29M) have been unable to keep an erection when trying to have sex. I think I’ve realized this is because my mind is used to getting aroused from visual stimulation i.e. porn. I’ve been off porn for about a month now. I tried masturbating the other day with porn or my imagination, focusing solely on the feeling and it was difficult to stay to aroused. Is it okay to use my imagination? I’m worried that will take away from the physical feeling. Any other tips or things I can practice are appreciated
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I have a thing for pretty feet. My gf is a great example and loves them played with. When I’m struggling with my hardon I focus on her feet or her perfect nipples or something about her or a situation we’ve been in, or simply the fact that she ONLY wants to please me at that moment. We’ve started talking a lot more during sex and it’s a game changer. I’ve coaxed her into talking a lil naughty. Not filthy or demeaning, but tell me what you’d like or want to try.
A while back, she actually asked me to finger her while she played with a buzz toy!!! The ask was hot nut the act was hotter!!!
Good luck man! 
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It’s fine to use imagination - you gotta have something to get you aroused! But I would try and base those fantasies around realistic situations with real life partners, rather than what you have seen in porn. And try and be gentle when you masturbate, not too rough. Good luck!
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