I’ve always used porn to masturbate. Using my imagination doesn’t work as I have aphantasia (no internal image or mind’s eye). I’m stuck in this loop because I know watching porn is causing erection issues when it comes to having sex with my partner but I can’t get hard when I’m on my own without it.
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Wow! Never heard of that. I’m the opposite. I visualize everything.
Maybe try listening to erotic stories?
Encourage your partner to start talking dirty or at least explicitly…
I’m fighting PED and a deathgrip. I’ve finally got my mind to allow the Rugiet to allow me satisfactory hardons to enjoy sex.
I am 
open about my issues. She is totally onboard with helping me.
My approach is:
Open honest communication.
Work this app.
Develop a kegal routine.
Cut down porn/solo.
Use a good lube when you do.
I asked her to be more explicit in bed. Don’t be embarrassed to say what you want. (Weeks ago she asked me to finger her while she used a toy on herself!! That was super hot!)
Maybe focus on a body part that you would while watching porn? (Leg guy, boob guy??)
Good luck man!!
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