So my girlfriend and I have not long broken up and now we’re in a friends with benefits situation while she “needs space”. Recently every time we go to have sex I either can’t get hard or lose it just as I’m about to put it in. I feel my heart race as the foreplay begins. I know I want to have sex but the second it appears like it’s starting I’m overcome with thoughts like if I don’t perform I’ll lose her and after it happens she reminds me a girls got needs and I’m disappointing every time. I love her and I’m tired of letting her down and obviously I don’t want to lose her
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Heart racing…. Sounds like fight or flight mode is engaged.
I know this feeling very well……
Box breathing is a life changer here.
I know it’s tricky , but try to relax and get out of your head. It does work….
Actually one extra trick I do is move to 69 with her on top.
Her pussy in my face takes my mind off my dick, and if she gives it a bit of attention… things get harder. But it’s all about taking my mind off me and onto her… so I think it’s based on “mojo-thinking”
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Sometimes all it takes is a few minutes to give your body a chance to calm your nervous system. Breathing helps for sure, but in the moment maybe focus on her for a few minutes to take your mind off the intrusive thoughts and if it you get hard then great, but if not she still enjoys it!
The man speaks truth! I also, love the 69 position….anything to take your mind off the performance and more on the fun of sex