Every time my wife and I try and have sex I have no issues getting and staying hard until vaginal sex and I get so nervous due to past issues of staying hard that I go soft within a minute. It’s ruining my marriage. Any help?
Try and relax, do the courses. I find the meditations are very helpful. I’m also doing the box breathing every hour. It’s the ruminating that’s most likely really messing things up. I believe in you and know your not alone
I literally put on headphones and do the box breathing exercise when I get to that stage with my significant other. It helps.
You are on the right way to fix that. Keep the course, box breathing and exercises, believe me you will feel better, and eliminate those bad thoughts.
Everything the others have said is true. Box breathing and meditation, it works…. Trust the app, trust yourself…
Great that you are able to get hard with your wife. Then ‘something’ happens, this can be really common, just before penetration. Mojo will really help you work out what is going on. It will also help you get out of your head and into your body. Often men can rush things when they are worried they will go soft. You will be able to practice getting hard, losing it and then gaining it again. This will help with your confidence that if you lose your erection it will come back. You will be able enjoy the touch without the worry. : )
I am right there with you buddy. Let’s do this thing and hope it works out
What do you listen to? Or do you just block out distractions?
Similar situation, except flight or flight would kick in and I’d cum within a minute. Try the exercises and box breath, the first time after starting mojo I felt it kicking in, stopped and did box breaths and some focusing activities for a minute. At that point I had also lost my erection, but through the activities I was able to relax, get it back, and continue sex. It wasn’t perfect and disrupted my wife, but still a win for me.
Stick with it, listen to what Amanda from mojo said above. It has helped me tremendously. I have had this problem all my life from 18 till I’m 54 now and I’m 100% better within a few months of using this app