Been with my current girlfriend for a year after having my heart broke for the first time at 24 (26 now)
Never experienced issues before but the first time getting intimate with my partner I couldn’t get it up and from then on, it’s been a constant mental battle every time.
I either cum to quick or it just keeps going up an down, making me slip further into my mind and doubting myself
She’s been really understanding about it but still makes me really conscious I’m not satisfying her and takes my pride away completely.
My first day using this app so hopefully this is the start of something positive
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This app helped me find success after a week of using it. Just have to remember to relax, stay in the moment, and use the breathing exercises the app teaches you.
I went into it with the mindset that just because you might not get it up one time doesn’t mean it’ll be like this forever. Also, it’s just sex, it’s not the end of the world and there will always be more opportunities to try again. You got this man
How do you get the breathing techniques to work? When do you use them? I can’t get my head around what moment I use them if I’m starting to get negative thoughts during foreplay
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I’ve heard several times from listening to the meditations to try the breathing exercises 10-20 minutes before sex. Obviously that’s out the window when sex happens spontaneously. Personally I wouldn’t try to incorporate them during initiation/foreplay. It’s just too much to think about and distracts you from what you should be focused on.
Just my opinion.
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I used the “calm” meditation breathing technique beforehand. During foreplay I did some box breathing while fingering her, then she turned the attention towards me trying to get me hard and I realized how tense I was, like I was almost arching my back off the bed tense. I also had a couple of negative thoughts creeping in.
So I forced myself to relax, started box breathing again, and focused on her and on the sensations. It helped that I had in my head that I could just step out of the room, take a minute to get hard then keep the show going.
I also busted after like 3 strokes but she said she didn’t mind and was just happy that I was able to get it up from her ministrations. So there’s always more things to work on but all things considered, huge success.
In the moment—- I’ve tried simply breathing out longer than you breathe in.
Inhale normal to deep- but exhale slowly.
Super simple and requires no thinking. 
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I used the “calm” meditation technique beforehand and then during foreplay I used the box breathing method, just to get used to using it.
When the time came where she was trying to get me hard I tried to stay in the moment, realized I was super tense, the let that go and did more of the breathing. So I think it would help to just 1. stay in the moment and listen to what your bodyi is saying and 2. consciously make the decision to do it, maybe even if you don’t feel like you need to.
Thats my issue too, i Just cant seem to be implementáció the technikus because its too much of a distraction but in a baj way, and when im realizing its nőt doing much i get more nervous.. any suggestions?