Really struugling

I feel like I’m losing my mind. Me and my partner went for a massage earlier. Afterwards, I just wanted to make love to her. On the way home, we spoke about just getting in and making love. I felt good and was confident I’d get an erection. She then said, “we need to take the dogs out, then we can come home and have a bath together.” Then panic sets in because I have to think about it. We’re in the bath, and I can feel that I’m really anxious. I did the breathing techniques, etc. (which don’t make me feel any different). So we started kissing and touching. Tried to have sex, but nothing at all. I’m fed up with this happening, and I’m not sure the app is helping. I’ve really thrown myself into it, but I don’t feel any different at all. The breathing techniques don’t do anything for me. All I do afterwards is get angry, and my whole body shakes.
An exercise on this app said watching porn can sometimes help. I don’t watch porn. So I tried it this morning and did get hard. I also wake up every day hard, and in the night, I know I get hard.

I really hope someone can relate to this.

I have my hormone levels checked regularly, so I know my testosterone levels are good.

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I can’t exactly relate mate, but you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself. Is this something you’ve spoken to your partner about? As in, you have held anything back with them?
If you haven’t really spoken about these issues with your printer, I’d honestly start there, if you have then I wonder if seeking professional counselling might be more beneficial for you.
I’ve only just started using this app recently, so haven’t noticed how much it helps, but I have been to therapy for other aspects of my life and it does help.

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We speak openly about it, and she puts no pressure on the situation what so ever. She’s really great with it. If it doesn’t work, as mad as I am, she just says it’s fine. I will continue with the app (only done 5 days do far). If this doesn’t work I will seek further help. Thanks for the response.

5 days is nothing mate, you haven’t even been through all the excersizes! Regular practice will help for sure but you really have to have an open mind and believe it will, if being hard on yourself actually helped it would’ve helped already. Be patient with yourself. And forgive yourself.

You said the breathing techniques cause you to get angry? Can you say more about that?

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What worked for me, is I jerk In front ofy gf then she would jerk me off until I got comfortable with it, then she would jerk me off while I mimic having sex with her until I felt very comfortable with her, then we had sex and it was great since then I was able to have sex with her 3-4 times a day with no problem

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What I meant by this was that the breathing doesn’t help me before sex. Afterwards, when I don’t get hard, I just get angry and my body shakes with what must be adrenaline. I am really trying to be open minded about the app, but atm nothing seems to work. I keep thinking my issue is medical. But the stress and fear I go through before sex makes me realise it must all be in my head.

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I wouldn’t be able to get hard doing that. I struggle to make myself hard anymore. It’s just sort of semi, then eventually nothing. I think it’s because I’m trying to force it all the time, instead of waiting for the natural feeling. But I don’t get that anymore either. I think I genuinely have a fear of getting an erection.

Have you done the soft penis pleasuring exercise? Sounds like you would benefit from it

No, I haven’t come across this exercise on the app yet so I will continue to work through it. I’m intrigued by that though.

I bought a penis pump from Amazon. I don’t know if it’ll help or work with my gf. It most certainly whether you fight it or not gets me hard. But the problem is I’m anxious and nervous when my partner is around. I get the thoughts in my head like “here we go again.” And it’s sad.

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I am in the same situation. I get extremely angry with myself. My wife is fantastic about it but we haven’t had sex in months. I’m only 30 years old and it’s an awful feeling.