Any here have difficulty ejaculating even with a strong erection? I had some ED and performance anxiety, but noweven with a strong erection I don’t ejaculate, obviously getting pretty frustrated. Sometimes Ill lose my erection as I keep frustrated, or almost cum and lose it. My girlfriend will cum and I won’t, and she’ll want to stop because it’s taking so long.
Anyone have experience with this and did they resolve it. Quit porn and masturbation about 6 weeks ago seems to have helped but none of the exercises here so far seem to relate to delayed ejaculation.
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i’ve had the same problem, can you finish by yourself or nah?
I have the same problem… I can cum sometimes with a lover, maybe once in a weekend. It hasn’t always been like that and the advice ive had so far is that its age related (so get used to it)
However I’m sure it is psychological as i can usually cum quickly when watching porn (although i don’t watch it often these days)
Not 100% sure whether this app is geared to this so cautious to invest my meager resources
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I found this community because I’ve been having pretty much the same problem. For my partner’s 15-20 climaxes, I can only get one. And last night, it took about an hour and a half. We tried multiple positions and I could only stay hard for a little while, even though I felt close to the point of ejaculation multiple times.
For context, I’ve been masturbating (not on a daily basis, but pretty close) since I was 19. And usually, my partner can only get me to cum when she’s giving me a handjob.
However, I don’t watch porn (I never really got into it) and neither does she. We have read some smut together, and we do engage in foreplay sometimes. In fact, foreplay (handjobs, blowjobs, fingering, etc.) seems to be the more common occurrence for us in the bedroom. I’ve only had (successful) sex with my partner two or three times.
I came on here with the hope of finding help with delayed ejaculation which has been an issue for me for some years. I’m sure it is psychological as many of the issues raised with ED also seem to apply to my DE i.e. inner critic, difficulty relaxing, getting out of my head. I’m hoping these techniques will help
I was like this for a long time, but changing up my self pleasure habits has really helped
I started with ED problems and couldn’t get it up due to performance anxiety. Eventually I started getting over that and it’s been great, but I had delayed ejaculation problem, for me you need to try and be more present, really focus on the sensations you can feel, the sounds you can hear from your partner, every sense focus on it. After I became more present with my partner I’ve almost over corrected and bust quite early sometimes.
Hope some of that helps but stay in there it will work it.
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Changing up how? Having the same issue so would love to try what worked for you
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Yep. Hard as a rock, but can’t cum. Even on my own, it can take 90 min. I changed my Cymbalta to Wellbutrin, and I think that’s helping. But all of this started after my ex and I separated. Even when sex or oral is a blast I’m going crazy, I feel like I’m almost there, and then it dies. So frustrating. Especially when I ask my sexual partner how I can please them and they say “I want you to cum.” I feel like a disappointment.
I have changed up masturbation habits. Only 1-2 times/week. I cut weed. I use porn to get an erection, but then I switch to pictures of my sexual partner. It’s hit or miss.
I’m just waiting for them to move along, despite the intense chemistry.
I feel like everything is focused on lasting longer or getting harder. There’s really not enough out there for delayed ejaculation. 
I can go indefinitely without orgasming, many days. Even on a PT-141 injection, I can’t cum. (PT-141 is BY FAR the best ED med, by a factor of 100… it gives you an erection that is so hard it almost hurts, and it even restores all the tingles/trills you felt as a teenager but haven’t felt in decades since then… Just be careful because it also increases melanoma risk by up-regulating melanin production as an off-target effect.) Anyway, even with PT-141, the anorgasmia is not affected at all.
I’ve only cum 2 times with my gf of 6 months despite her wonderful handies and oral skilz. Last week I finished myself while she encouraged me and it was amazing!
I know I’m way too familiar with my own grip. I’ve 90% quit porn and solo a few weeks ago and haven’t seen her since. She’s away helping har mom recover from a hip replacement. I see her Friday and cannot wait!!
Man wish I had this issue, I am the opposite as soon as I start to penetrate my wife I the urge to cum happens so quick, is there something you guys do to last so long that I could try or is there anything you take to be struggling to cum?