I was starting to feel good and confident that I could maintain an erection again but now I’m in a situation where sex is on the cards in a few days I feel like my confidence is gone again and I’ve started to worry again. I have been less consistent with using mojo as I am on holiday with my friends. Any tips?
I would ask your partner if you could take it slow. Maybe get to know her a bit better or even be comfortable enough to share what has happened in your past. You’ve experienced a very serious trauma, for real. I don’t think we as men give ourselves the credit we deserve or the time to heal from our wounds. Its just like back to the grind like nothing ever happened. If you watch porn I’d stop.
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Get back on mojo asap. Communicate. Start by pleasuring her and see the effect it has on you!
I think the fact is that we never truly know if it will work in the bedroom or not. Just yesterday, I had been rock-hard all day for no reason. Just a horny day… I texted my friend asking if she’d like to come over. She did and I remember thinking to myself “tonight is going to be great there is literally no way I could go soft”.
She comes over takes off her clothes and everything went well for a whole 5 minutes before I lost my erection.
Here is the thing. Some girls are super chill about that stuff. They’re fine with oral, cuddling, massages, etc. They really don’t care that much. Others will take it personally or be very clear that it’s not ok for them, and that stings. But there’s nothing you can do about that. All you can do is be as relaxed as possible and be set the expectation for both you an her that you’ll have a good sexy time but penetration is not guaranteed.
I like to have massage oil handy, when I can’t get hard I just give my partner a massage and it’s very enjoyable for both parties. I’ve had one night stands where I wasn’t able to get hard but still had a good time with oral and massage and cuddling and the girl texted me after the fact saying she really enjoyed herself.
Good luck, don’t overthink it. It’s ok to not get hard especially the first time with someone.
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