I wish there was a search function on this forum, cause I can’t be the only one
It’s simple - everything is fine until the condom comes out, then the stress begins. Even if it goes on smoothly and things start out well, the decreased sensation and the stress of the self-doubt (about whether I can stay hard with a condom) kicks in.
Then, the inevitable. I hate condoms. What to do?
I have the same issue. It takes 5 seconds to put a condom on, and about 15 seconds to be completely flaccid… I think the issue for me is when I put it on my mind is like 95% focused on the condom and not the experience itself. I’m trying to get out of my own head, but that is a very difficult thing to do. I’d recommend opening the condom and leaving it beside the bed ready to go. The opening of the packet seems to trigger me.
I also recently started to masturbate with a condom on to “get used to it”. I have no trouble when I’m solo, so I’m hoping it will build my confidence when it comes to condoms. Also make sure to get the thin condoms, the regular ones feel like I’m wearing a damn balloon on my dick lol.
Wow great to hear from someone who has the same issue! I often do the same, leaving it on the nightstand for a while until ready. Still, when i;m ready it’s sort of a race to get the thing on - the clock ticking and one slip-up and all is lost 
I might try it solo, just to see thanks!
I’ve had massive issues with condoms my whole life, whenever me and someone don’t use a condom things go a lot better (although still get phases where I get PED). With some partners that I feel comfortable to go slower with I ask for them to give me a blowjob whilst I get the condom out to keep me in the moment and even sometimes ask them to put it on me as this feels like it takes the stress away from it! I know it’s different with each person you sleep with but definitely something to try and if you feel comfortable say that you have problems with condoms and find what keeps you in the moment - like them playing with you whilst you get the condom out
Same for me!
And as for my mates that can wear them…most can’t cum with them.
Fully agree, feel as soon as I go to get it and get it on it’s a ticking clock going down, most the time can’t even make it to turn over to missionary before it’s flaccid enough I can’t penetrate, then the embarrassment kicks in and it starts all over
I think for guys like us…we have to start seeing the condom as “ticket to fun”.
In our head, we’re associating a condom with failure or a soft dick…for me it’s because the first time I used one I was really drunk and couldn’t keep it up….so now that’s imprinted!!!
So we change this mindset I’m not sure, maybe use one for every wank and try to feel excited to put it on?
Ugh! Condone have always made things worse for me. I can definitely relate to all the other comments here. I am thankful that my wife got an IUD.
Masturbating with a condom on seems super weird, awkward, and bizarre.
That said, it actually does seem like a pretty good idea and I will be trying it soon
A lot of my issues started from using condoms for the first time in 15 years. The awful latex smell, the clumsy wrapper, the new partner, being in a new environment, the lack of sensation (feedback). If you’re going from the almost routine of a long term relationship to a new partner, it’s quite stressful and not a lot of good feedback. Honestly me and my new partner just acknowledged it just didn’t work for either of us as she felt it was also a giant turn off.
All that to say, been there man, it’s a huge learning curve.
I read that you should lube your dick before putting on the condom both for solo and couples. I haven’t had success yet, but it’s a work in progress. I’m on no masturbation right now since I’ve got a date coming up, but I tried with a rubber a couple weeks ago and didn’t cum, but stayed hard and had good sensation. Keep trying.
On the amount of times I had to use 3 or more condoms for one session of sex just because I lose my erection and we have to go back to foreplay all over again so I can “maybe” get it back up. I agree, the thought of a condom sometimes is a trigger!
Absolutely masturbating with a condom on helps. You get used to it and can build up associations of pleasure with condoms.
I’ve had that issue as well. I wasn’t having any more so I had a vasectomy.
I’ve had the same experience
I experience the exact same thing. Without a condom I’m completely fine but even the thought of putting one on or its presence nearby makes me distracted and not able to enjoy the experience