Is anyone else in the same category?
Sometimes I’m hard as a rock…as soon as I reach for that condom wrapper it literally disappears in less than 20 seconds….and not just goes flaccid, it near goes back into my body!!! Even tried masterbating with a condom, that’s fine but didn’t fix the problem when with a partner.
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I have the same issue i just go raw now 
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I’m in the same boat too! Has been an issue on and off for some time but has been getting worse. Was ok with a long term partner as we were able to go without a condom but with a new girl now so that’s not an option and the condom was an instant boner killer! 
Make sure you’re using the right size, a condom that’s too tight will cut off blood flow and kill your boner. I didn’t know I needed wider condoms for years, the regular size is way too tight.
I feel this is psychological…I’ve tried wanking in one and it’s fine…even feels nice. But with a partner, nope, heart starts pounding and it’s all over.
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I’m happy to go raw…but some girls aren’t. I’d much prefer to be able to use one. Wtf is wrong with us?
Same here. Nothing to do with the size of the condom. Just goes soft when I’m done with foreplay and we want to go further
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Getting the logistics right will help gents. Take the condom out of the wrapper and have it somewhere handy and hygienic so that you don’t have to fumble which can be a mood killer.
Also, don’t rush for penetration straight after putting it on. Whack some lube on the outside and get a handjob before you go in.
I was also petty open with my partner, told her condoms killed the vibe for me, she agreed it was the same for her but we both agreed they’re a necessary evil and she’s willing to be patient too.
Hope some of those help.
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I’ve always had this issue.
It’s so annoying
It’s in your mind and now you’ve created a pattern where you start overthinking and spectatoring which is a boner killer. You simply need to create an alternate pattern in your mind. Try to keep doing the masturbation thing with a condom, but taking a little longer each time between when you feel ready to put the condom on and actually putting it on. By repeating this over and over your brain should get the message that putting on a condom doesn’t equal loss of a loss of erection.
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Agree. Right size makes a big difference (no pun intended).
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I lose it before I even have a chance to put it on.
Me too. I have found that, in the instances where my partner and I have agreed to use them? Put it on RIGHT away. Keep them handy on the bedside, and as soon as early foreplay starts happening? Just put it on. Then resume, well before it’s “time”. Then you can let things ramp up naturally and not break the rhythm. Usually once foreplay went on for a few minutes, I’d forget all about the condom being on, or having had to put it on.
If I waited? Until we were REALLY raging? It was guaranteed to kill it. Every time, without fail. Just that little break in concentration or distraction was enough.
I have this same issue. Whenever I got to put a condom on, it kills my mood. I just love fucking raw so mentally it isn’t sexy to me. And the few times I do keep an erection long enough to put it on, i struggle with it because im uncut so my foreskin pulls back with it sliding on and it hurts. And I also struggle with the base pulling on my pubes. Maybe i just don’t know how to use a condom in my 30s. Idk. But I also suffer from PE so I usually do vaginal penetration just to cum in 1-3 pumps so for me, condom is pointless in the sense that I’ll bust quickly just let me do it
Anytime I go near a condom I lose my erection, and once it’s gone it’s not coming back. Cock does be throbbing before hand and then nothing. Bareback is good but always possible
This has been my problem in the past. If you are truly horny, and truly attracted to the chick—> you will be able to use the condom. The arousal and libido need to thru be the roof for dudes like us. Its a mind thing. Another thing that helps; stop jacking off if you know you are going to get laid soon
Get her to suck you off whilst you unwrap it
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Yes I lived same issue too
this is a great method that def works
Have her get the condom And put it on you. Has helped me in the past. Sometimes I have had a hard time finishing with a condom, but that’s another story.
Maybe if your partner masturbated in front of you showing their excitement and need it would help too?
Just some ideas. Good luck. Definitely been in the situation where I’ve been overwhelmed by everything and had issues myself. It sucks, but you can learn to roll with it. I’ve made it about pleasuring my partner with a bunch of oral and instead and gotten a sensual massage back. Made for a nice moment.