bros this is awful. ive been married for almost 10 years. i love my wife. i love having sex with her. i dont even know where to start. ive always had so much anxiety when it came to sex. i remember just thinking of how theres no way i could ever be good at that and so on and so fouth. of course that waxed and waned and i figured out how to battle it. well lately its back. i cannot control it. im in my own head so deep and this started back a few years ago. i wanted to change our sex life. i wanted more orgasms for my wife. keep in mind shes not exactly adventurous or anything and never asks for sex but doesnt really refuse either what im getting at is she seemed fine with the way it was ans i was not. but i let it control me to the point i was putting so much pressure on myself that i was getting the same anxiety that i used to. then i discovered blue chew. and that helped for a while. until one day i got it in my head that it wasnt gonna help anymore and just like that it doesnt. let me just give you an example of the kinda situations that dont work. i was in the garage feeling horny as fuck. she came out i made a move she was rubbing me talking about wanting my dick and then said lets go in and fuck. by the time i got inside to do my thing i was so far in my head there was nothing i could do. id get hard but the minute i went to insert it was like i was hearing my own heart beat. its almost like a self profiling prophecy we have had good moments as of lately too. i just dont know what is going on with me.
Something that might help: pick something healthy to commit to doing every day. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as you know it’s healthy. One thing I like to do is take beet root juice. Beet root does something with your blood pressure that makes your erections harder. And it’s a health food.
Now convince yourself that this thing is the solution. Convince yourself that beet root makes you a sexual monster. Take it everyday and when you take it envision it flooding your body and making your blood vessels swell up. It’s like placebo but it’s not, this will genuinely happen, and faster than you probably think. You’ll get hornier too. Other supplement options are L-Arginine, Tongkat Ali, and Sunflower Lecithin (combine these all if you want to be uncontrollably horny. Drink lots of water.
Now commit to having sex with your wife as much as possible. Do not consider the outcome of the sex at all. Just let yourself be possessed by your arousal. Even if you cum fast your wife will be happy because she will feel extremely attractive; you can’t keep your hands off her. Let life happen and forget to take your supplements every now and then. At some point you will run out and you will realize you’ve been staying hard no problem and you don’t really need any of them. You might want to keep taking them because they make you feel great though.
I’ve had similar situations and I still don’t feel like I can please her like she deserves or how I would like to. There was a long phase where we had less intercourse but more playing and oral and this helped take the stress of the performance of sex. We still sometimes revert back to this as well but it I still struggle with self doubts as to my performance and compare myself to fictional guys.