Cannot get hard or feel anything at all while with a partner

🍆 Erection issues
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So my first time was about three years ago with a female friend, and I couldn’t get hard or feel anything good. I thought it might’ve been because the room was so cold and I had just gotten out of the shower. Still, I kept trying to have sex without an erection, and somehow, after about 30 minutes, I managed to cum—getting hard only for a second right before. I was confused the whole night.

Later, I tried again with another girl I met at a nightclub. The same thing happened, but that time I didn’t even try to go in and just give up. That’s when I really started worrying about my dick and sex life. I even went to a brothel, and still, nothing worked. then i tried again with 4 another girls i pulled from the club and still didnt work. They were all hot and sexy, and they were alsotrying to get me hard as well. So, basically, i have never had sex with my fully erected dick and felt the pleasure. Is my sex life already over before it wasnot even started yet???

I’m in my 20s now, and I can get erections when I’m masturbating alone. I’ve also tried exercises from an app—like the ones sensual touch—and those actually helped me get hard alone. But whenever i am in bed with a girl, i can feel nothing sensual.

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Hey man, I’ve been in your position exactly. I’m in my 30’s now and it still happens to me from time to time. You can’t put your finger on why but you just can’t get it up or keep it up for long enough to enjoy it properly. What worked for me was going cold turkey on porn, trusting that if I leave it alone for a week, it will still work. Couple that with the stuff about meditation and being relaxed which you’ll learn here and you’ll be sound :flexed_biceps:t2:

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Have you ever tried with one girl multiple times? Possibly, you are always too nervous since it’s your first time with someone new and you never had a successful sexual encounter.
Alternatively, I would try again at the brothel. Try to relax and remember that a sex worker really does not care whether you can get it up or not, so there is nothing to lose, really. You have to just keep trying. I guarantee you that it will work eventually.