I’ve always had trouble finishing during sex. When I masturbate, it’s not an issue, but with sex it’s been a problem for most of my life, so I’ve ended up faking it most of the time. Honestly, probably 95% of the time I don’t finish and just pretend I did. The thing is, I love sex. I just don’t know if I can always climax. Sometimes I do, but it’s rare. I’m curious if anyone else deals with this.
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Yes. I can almost never cum with a partner. It’s extraordinary if I do, even if I’m jacking off with him.
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I’m in the same position - and now it’s progressed at the point where I feel like I get soft during penetration
Can anyone give us recommendations for this?
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this is interesting, I have the other problem, I cum too early. I guess I am too focused on the pleasure feeling and I get excited too quickly, but thats bad bcz she isnt done and I end up having to cum multiple times.
How do u guys feel or think when having sex?
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I’m overcoming PED but still have trouble finishing with a partner. I still have to finish myself. Sometimes it even takes me forever after I’ve had sex for 10-20 min…. Often I’ll fantasize that she’s forcing me to do it for her and her friends as an audience… using a fear as a fantasy…. It’s twisted, but kinda turns me on…
My death grip issue stems from going solo with porn for years in a bad marriage…
New gf is helping me overcome it and is all in.
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Using fantasies is a good idea…the problem for me is that I try to get into the fantasy so much that I lose myself out of the moment…
Coming multiple times sounds great! If you are still hard keep it going!!!
That happens to me sometimes…
You won’t come with mutual masturbation?
its not bad, but i guess girls like to keep hard all the time. mine needs few min after ejaculation to get 100% hard again. So its like a buzz killer.
That said i feel i did smthg wrong, she was still warming up when i cum, so I guess I should have used my tongue a bit more since she doesnt like me using my fingures too much. Otherwise it really sucks for me bcz i would cum too fast even if multiple times but stopping each minute might be annoying to her.
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Yes I’ve had this issue for years before and after mojo and felt it wasn’t really addressed fully by the program.
I think it is a sort of trauma and avoidance strategy. I’m avoiding getting attached subconsciously due to growing up enmeshed with mother. I also tend to be focused on other people more than me and also don’t flip into fantasy very easily anymore. I am focused on the reality of bad smells, overly sensitive and uncomfortable areas, fears, and not wanting to be reenmeshed or abandoned by another partner, so I do the abandoning (not consciously like some sort of sociopath, thank you very much).
It’s not really addressed, you’re right. We who can’t achieve climax with a partner are too rare to make money for Mojo and similar products, and yet our pain is very real. I have trouble with thinking and worrying whether I’m feeling the right things or whether I’m taking too long, our whether my partner really cares whether I cum or not. Most men seem to care more about their own satisfaction than they do their partner’s, and so often I just give up and please him and just accept that I’m not going to get to cum.
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