would love to hear People’s thoughts on this. I’ve been married 22 years and for the first 20 years my wife simply had no interest in sex.
She pretty systematically rejected me and I relied on porn and trained myself to no longer look at her in that way.
Things came to a head two years ago where I said I was no longer prepared to stay married and I wanted to be in an intimate relationship.
She has since made more effort and actually really enjoys sex now. However, I struggle to climax during sex and I’m assuming it’s because I find it hard to look at her in that way now.
does anyone have any experience like this and thoughts on whether it’s something that I can overcome and begin to enjoy intimacy with her again?
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I’m going through something similar. I haven’t been married as long, but my wife has so many boundaries around sex it makes it difficult to engage intimately. I too have used porn as a substitute and now surfing with ED and DE.
Since I’ve took ownerx
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Sorry, I accidentally posted before I finished typing.
Since I took ownership of the fact I need to change I’ve taken steps to do that.
I’ve put myself on a no porn, no masturbation and only an hour of social media a day. Even unfollowing girls that post thirst traps or try and drive people to their OF content. I set out for a week initially to set a realistic goal and I’ve done it and now aiming for a second week and will review from there.
Porn was ruining my arsoul and I was associating those images with climax from masturbation and I couldn’t enjoy the moment with my wife.
I’m not going to lie, it’s difficult and you will get urges if you go down this path, but I highly recommend it. Be warned though, you will probably find you won’t get hard again while your mind and body recalibrate.
I’m not saying it will fix everything, but it could help.
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My thoughts after using this app for 24hrs.
And before I commit my insight I found with my AI therapist that stuck out the most was:
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My erection is connected with my focus and how I respond to situations (stress management)
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When talking to people I should be expressing my own personal desires and fantasy because it’s how people connect.
Now I’m not married but I will say this.
20 years of miss treatment from your wife is a long time.
I think you need a whole lot of me time!
And what I mean maybe self expression with your wife…
You know, ask to be your pornstar.
Your penis needs a bridge to connect the dots!!!
Whatever type of porn you were watching ask her to play the role, it’s time for her to fix it!
As for the prude wife…
I’ve found prude women to be lots of fun once you understand them…
It’s like you found a magic key that unlocks all your fantasies!
I’m really enjoying my AI Therapy.
We even role played pitching my fantasy…
