Hi guys! For a while I’ve had issues in ejaculating with casual partners. At home- when watching porn I find I can ejaculate very easily but when with casual partners I struggle to cum at all.
Any tips on how to overcome this? I’ve tried not watching porn for a few days and trying to imagine scenarios and masturbating but still cannot ejaculate. It’s affecting my self esteem and thoughts about having sex with people cause I don’t want to embarrass myself
Same.
Bad marriage, I played solo for 10-12 yrs… now with a wonderful lady and she’s helping me overcome my deathgrip and PED. I slowed way down on porn and solo play. I loosened my grip and added a good lube. I try to use imagination or my own thoughts to turn myself on even with her. She’s very pretty but I feel icky staring at her features when having sex in order to get off. (Result of porn making me super visual!) I literally haven’t finished without my own hand in years. She’s been able to get me close with her hand, but ultimately I had to finish…
Recently I’ve started to become more confident in my erections and can go for 20 or so minutes- it’s usually a back or knee pain that makes me stop then she tries to help. (We’re 53!)
I struggled with this a ton… Recently, I feel like I’m making strides but it’s been a journey…
What worked for me was dropping porn and really digging into the touch exercises in this app. I would just pop on some music and relax while doing the mindful touch/sensate stuff. The hardest bit was being willing to just relax and notice the touch, being willing to walk away from the session without climaxing… That was a touch brain switch for me because I’d always been focused on the goal.
The first couple of sessions were frankly underwhelming. But by about the third, things felt like they were getting rewired. I started noticing my body reacting to touch without having to bring fantasy into the game . Once that first hurdle was crossed, I could begin to relax a bit and enjoy more. Over the course of a week or so, I was able to finally cum without a death grip or anything else. It just took time, persistence and a willingness to end a solo session without climaxing.
Yeah bro drop the porn set up some blockers and detox