I tried Sildenafil, a second time, and about an hour+ in advance, this time and it worked great!
I believe the source of my anxiety is fear of rejection (this is my first sexual relationship following a horrible divorce).
This has been my first time dealing with erection dysfunction, and it’s in a brand new relationship, and I was dealing with the “what if it happens again” spiral. It definitely helped to talk with my partner about it, too.
The soft penis pleasuring activity surprised me. I ended up gaining an erection, which created a thought that everything was OK with my dick, which helped replace some of the worrisome thoughts that something was wrong and getting worse.
So it was a super big deal, to me, to be able to get past the erection issue and restore some confidence. My girlfriend has been incredibly understanding and supportive, which I am SO grateful for (and said so)!