Inner critic, inner coach banishing said critic, being mindful of spectatoring, box breathing, reverse kegels, directed masturbation, sometimes doing that together with help of my wife to get hard…I’ve been doing these consistently daily for the past 3 weeks.
The issue is that as soon as I get into my own head, just a single stray thought, I go soft. Sometimes I don’t even get hard enough to begin penetration. It’s kinda like “Once you think it, you can’t unthink it”. And no amount of box breathing or any of the aforementioned recovery techniques work by this point.
It’s become very disheartening and we’re considering trying a bluechew subscription, as my wife really wants penetration.
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I’m right there with you. I cannot stay hard when penetrative sex begins if I get in my head. I want to be present so bad but the thought just takes over.
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Yeah it’s become very frustrating. I’ve also done a lot of the Meditation exercises in the Explore session. The problem is, meditating during sex sounds great on paper. Practically, all I’m doing is stopping everything, including any semi-hardness and doing mindful breathing exercises, not thinking about sex. Great, my penis is now decidedly soft and relaxed. Now what?
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The pills don’t work if it’s psychological. I know I have tried loads. Did work a bit to begin but bang after say 6 times. Nothing.
I understand the performance anxiety and that is debilitating. That’s where I’m at. So trying all I can on here to enjoy the moment. I have been suffering 7 years when my partner went peri menopausal and went off sex. I normalised this and soon afterwards it stated to flop. So I need to get back into man stride
So keep on trying guys.
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