Hi so I’m 65 in terrific shape and healthy, I wonder are we western men too focussed on ejaculation as the goal of sex??
I usually get hard no problem but sometimes it goes soft during sex with condom, my girlfriend is into Tantra and believes sex is a pleasure and I should not be focused on ejacultion as a goal, she loves penetration but is fine switching to oral if I go soft, physically I feel sexually satisfied having some mini orgasms (waves of pleasure) without ejeculation thought I do also love going all the way to explosive orgasm with ejaculation
Mojo particularly PC exercises and stretching has helped improve my ability to stay hard during penetration sex but I wonder if I should accept that I’m not 25 and that some days my body dosnt want or need to go as far as ejeculation? Are we all besting ourselves up trying to emulate a myth of a stallion fu***** his woman into oblivion with his powerful tool?
Yeah, we impose certain ideas on ourselves. Sex doesn’t always have to be about us cumming, I don’t feel, and thinking and believing that is in rewriting the script a bit, and hopefully being with a partner who is open to being off-script.
I’m so much more at ease in the role of a giver, and naturally I take for granted that I must give, which I do with absolute pleasure, in order for penetration to necessarily occur, but being able to be selfish and make it more about my own pleasure and cumming necessarily is difficult. Being with the right partner who makes you feel OK with indulging your own climax time to time is important, to not make you feel guilty about it. Otherwise, I’m so happy to not necessarily have that focus and rather be all about worshipping them. In rewriting the script, I’m desiring for sex to be less about a particular destination like penetration necessarily or even my cumming, and more about meaningful connection and play, that moments of penetration shouldn’t have that expectation that it necessarily be rigorous and leading to me cumming necessarily, but rather moments of penetration in few different positions be a way to explore and enjoy closeness eith your partner as you explore each other’s sensory terrain and breathe together. Know what I mean?