Viagra is my safety net. Some days I feel like I might not need it, but I take it because it helps me get out of my own head. Last night, I took it and still went soft. It’s frustrating, especially because it’s hard to know if she believes my words when I assure her over and over that it’s not her.
Sex has been better overall lately, and my confidence grows, but then that happens…
I guess the silver lining is that I know it’s psychological.
I dont know but its what happened to me and the woman I developed it with reacted the same way and had bpd and I dont think any normal person should react in a way of is it me am I not pretty enough bs, rather being supportive and understanding. But instead she puts you into even more stress. Also there needs to be some level of frustration and feeling of inability/humiliation if she reacts that way, because then she is disregarding your feelings and stress and doesn’t “see” or more like ignores the cause and then puts you in fight-or-flight mode because you need to comfort her that its not her its you. You are suddenly at fault for something. It leaves you alone with your problem in front of someone who knows about it and will give you stress if she sees that it doesnt work. What a recipe for erection. And I dont know how she is, but since I know plenty, she probably also has 0 game and you need to do everything alone, from making yourself feel relaxed to making her feel relaxed. When I told a recent date about how my ex reacted she said if that happens with me Im gonna give you head for hours you will relax at some point for sure but I bet you wont last long. I think that was the most healthy, confident, supportive and simple statement anyone could make. It removed any pressure of me later and when it came to it I was 90% hard and didnt even get head. Since then I always put how my ex reacted to it every time into perspective.
Yes, exactly. It’s the pressure! And it just builds when negative experiences happen. She’s not totally making me feel bad or anything. It’s probably just assumptions on my part, but I know she’s insecure. It’s hard to convince someone how much you want them when you go soft.
Before I started the app, Viagra or Cialis could not overcome what’s in my head……
after 6 weeks on app, 3 weeks without porn or solo (90% quit…
) I’m still using Viagra and it’s hit or miss. I’m hard as a rock solo, but still 70% with her….
I’m fully relaxed with her…. She’s so sweet, understanding and considerate… I’m going to stay at it for our sakes!!! Imma beat PED!
Nice one fella! It sounds like you’ve got a keeper there - don’t let her go 
Wrong reply DOH!